-..... quite afraid when it comes to relationships. im not your typical "girl-next-door" type who exudes qualities that'll sweep guys off their feet.. not even your "snob-obnoxious" type of girl who'd make your life miserable than ever..i'm just me... not so simple yet not so complicated
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i just had a talk with one old friend....no..he's not old...he's just acting like an old man...kidding aside...He's a friend wayback.I'ts really nice to know that there is someone i can talk to when things just get worse......This is one of the conversation i would be forever thankful for....it was something that i want to share with someone for ived been carrying this all along for a long time....its not that ived told him almost everything ( i didn't even go into details)....its just that i need someone to "punch" my head and say..."hey!........!".....gladly....he was brave enough to be honest! ....ok he did apologized after saying those " -------" words but as they say " truth hurts"........
...... thanks for making me SMILE!
AnD as a payment .....consultation fee:
Well i received this through e-mail..added some comments (-->) and all of these..I find it true..
by CD and comments from yours truly..Ü
"Someone I cared about said to me that maybe he
just can't handle
relationships. And those words broke my heart.
It’s like hearing someone say he'll be an
emotional cripple for the rest of his life
because sustaining any kind of relationships be
it as a friend or a lover is what makes us human.
I don't believe there's "handling" a relationship
as much as "building" one, do you? And then I
came across these... really good reminders if we
want our relationships to stay and for keeps.
God bless everyone!"
1. Don't think in terms of forever. Think of now,
and forever will take care of itself. Recognize
that all relationships cannot be forever.
Recognize their temporary quality, but continue
to act as if they are permanent.
--> i know of someone who would greatly disagree with this....
2. Expect to invest a great deal of time and
energy in your relationships. Lasting
relationships don't just happen, they are created.
-->a relationship is a give and take proposition..
3. Respect the other person's relationships apart
from you. If they are important to the one you
care about, they should be important to you.
-->both of you should live in harmony with others
especially to those people who mean/t
something to you or to your partner
4. Never idealize others. They will never live up
to your expectations.
--> i remember my talk with my bro (5 yrs. ago)
5. Don't be afraid of giving. You can never give
too much, if you're giving willingly.
-->it doesn't matter as long as you know your
limits, but people do sometimes give too much
for the sake of love..for women you'll really end
up losing the battle..(but then..just look at the
bright side of life..as long as ur alive nothing's too
late)
6. Never force anyone to do anything for you "in
the name of love." Love is not to be bargained
for.
-->we still have individual rights you know?
7. Don't allow experience to harden your heart;
rather use it to become more aware and sensitive.
-->experiences make us more mature......as if ived learned! : )
9. Don't brood. Get on with living and loving. You
don't have forever.
-->yup..kya nga seize the day.
11. Keep the child in you alive and playing.
-->your life just happens once..your childhood,
teenage years,etc..just happens once..so better
make the most out of it..you shouldn't be in a
hurry..
12. Divorce, fighting, arguing will never solve
your problems; better to try understanding,
warmth and flexibility.
-->it's really not healthy..
13. Stop going through life in self-pity, self-
blame and "mea culpa" syndrome. We are not as bad
as we think.
14. Write down all the reasons why you love each
person you relate with. Then, when the going gets
tough, take the list out and reread it. It
resolves problems quickly.
--> missed to do that :(
15. Don't be afraid of disagreements and
arguments, the only people who don't argue are
people who don't care or are dead. In fact, don't
have short arguments.
Make certain they are thoroughly over and done
with.
After an argument is over, forget it.
-->yup forget it..nothing will happen if you keep on
bringing up the past (fights especially)..it will just
make things worse..
16. Watch out for little irritations, they grow
into destructive monsters. Verbalize them at once.
-->speak out!say what you feel..( thats my bestfriends principle)
17. Let go of pride. It is usually false, creates
barriers and prevents closeness.
-->too much pride is never good..it really is destructive..
18. Acknowledge the humanness of the other.
19. Exercise feelings. Feelings have meaning only
as they are expressed in action.
-->words are not enough..show it!
20. Be compassionate. It is the sure way to
understanding and acceptance.
21. See all criticism as positive for it leads to
self-evaluation. You are always free to reject it
if it is unfair or does not apply.
22. Expect what is reasonable, NOT what is
perfect.
-->everything has its reasons..but you should never
act nor feel perfect..
23. Stop playing games. A growing relationship can
only be nurtured by GENUINENESS.
-->games just show one's imaturity..
24. Even though you are only half of a
relationship,you must remain a whole person,
apart from the relationship.
-->value yourself..never love so much more
than you love yourself..you'll end up crazy..hehe..Ü
25. Remember that moral and spiritual values don't
restrict, they PROTECT.
26. What you learn about yourself will infinitely
help in trying to understand others.
-->yup.if you know yourself then you'll know
how to adjust with others..love is not selfish..
27. See problems as small MIRACLES which can bring
about KNOWLEDGE AND CHANGE.
28. Don't allow your relationships to die of
NEGLECT.
--> trust me...it hurts!
.......................... i intentionally omit some numbers ( dont mind asking y...K?)
I was walking in a gloom
Seemingly alone on the beach
My eyes let the tears bloom
As you were painfully out of reach
You seemed to be with me all the while
But never in truth, never to be real
All the words and voices appear to have become mute
And the unspoken feelings - much too cruel
Flooding memories rush back in time
In every moment awake and every dream in sleep
Yet, I have no physical recollection to hold onto
And that you were never mine - makes me weep
Your absence now makes me go mad
And I am really confused about what we actually had
We trusted it was more than a friendship we shared
And, missing you this way is making me sad
I really don’t know what I feel inside
And this hurt makes my heart go weak
My emotions somewhere I have displaced
There are so many things and answers I seek
Was I a mere vacation for you
While you entertained your heart and mine?
Once again, I am stuck wondering 'why?'
Walking alone in the dark, wanting to cry
I long for a little word from you
Waiting by the phone that never rings with your call
I wanted you to be next to me, holding my hand...
(I should have caught myself when I knew I would fall)
Hopes of tomorrow seem to be fading
And my today is packed with grief
I am merely living with your memories
Even though the time we shared was so brief
I should have listened to all the signs...
After this I don't think I'll ever be fine
Especially knowing the fact that
You were never mine... And never will be
FrEnDZ WiD PaOlO SaNtOS!
LoVAPALooZA 2 WItH JILL! @ MTS
Im HeRE.......At LASt!......tnX VEEj!MMMMMMMMMMMMWAh!
